……..can really rile you up. Just go to a presentation about Social Media and you’ll see what I mean. rile (rl) tr.v. riled, ril·ing, riles 1. To stir to anger. See Synonyms at annoy. 2. To stir up (liquid); roil. http://www.thefreedictionary.com/rile I don’t typically focus on writing … Continue reading
A quick post about the depth of soul – that’s where identity work is done. Continue reading
You are shaped by the stories that you hear and the storytellers that share them. This week, I had the privilege or speaking a the Joshua Wilderness Institute at Hume Lake. It was such a great time. I got to … Continue reading
One of the main skills for identity development is having the ability to self-reflect and self-evaluate. I had a conversation with one of my students – about their strengths and talents – and it was a great conversation where you … Continue reading
Every experience shapes and forms us. There’s no escaping it. All of our Deep Hurts have a powerful influence on our identity.
When you are conscious of your Deep Hurt, you react and respond to it accordingly. Some of us push it down. Some of us charge after it head on. We all deal with it in some way. Some deal with it right away, and some wait. No matter which way you attack it, it shapes you.
There is a powerful thing that happens with Deep Hurts. There are triggers that tap into our Deep Hurts. When someone or something taps into that – they hurt us deeply – and sometimes unconsciously. You can be deeply hurt with a side glance or a furrowed brow. It doesn’t take much, but the right thing or the wrong thing can tap into that. And you will react to it – most times subconsciously – where you don’t even know that you lash out.
It becomes so much a part of who we are that it’s normal and we don’t even pay any attention to it. It’s a natural response that will illicit a response.
You can reform and reshape Deep Hurts – it’ll then reform and reshape your identity.
So about a month ago, I wrote a post that I called 28.1%. That was my BMI – body mass index. According to the chart that I looked at, it said that at that percentage, I am overweight. About a … Continue reading
So I read about Mental Models today. Basically, a mental model is formed early in life and then they stick with us for the rest of our lives. When things happen in our lives, our brains bring up these mental … Continue reading
I heard someone talk about this today. I don’t know that they would call it this, but I thought it was a great identity insight in light of the job that you do. The way that they described a Subjective … Continue reading
I used this identity this week. There were a few churches that got together and put on a camp. It’s the same camp that I went to when I was in high school. I spent many summers there. It was … Continue reading
Lately, I’ve been thinking about all the different ways that we categorize ourselves. I had written about how we can sometimes find out identity in the BMI. I still think I’m overweight – although I’ve lost some lbs., and I’m … Continue reading
I wrote a post that I called Becoming What You Hate. I have been thinking about it quite a bit. I know what I hate, and it’s just natural to become it. I wonder if it’s because I think about … Continue reading
I heard someone say this. The context of the conversation was how we live such public lives. We do live our lives on Facebook and Twitter. We spend times posting everything. We share what sandwich we eat. We share how … Continue reading