or at least write like one. At the very least, write on this site. I have always wanted to share it and build a community of people writing about identity. I need identity specialist or at least people interested in … Continue reading
con·flu·ence (knfl-ns) n. 1. a. A flowing together of two or more streams. b. The point of juncture of such streams. c. The combined stream formed by this juncture. 2. A gathering, flowing, or meeting together at one juncture or point e·vent (-vnt) n. 1. a. Something … Continue reading
Have you ever seen identity? Do you want to know how? I know some people are looking for identity or what to find their identity. If you are one of those – please take a look at this post or this … Continue reading
I haven’t written a blog post since 10.17 – according to what the dashboard says. It’s been kind of nice to still get hits on the blog even when I wasn’t writing. I needed a break, but I didn’t know … Continue reading
I haven’t written a post in about 10 days. It’s been really good. Of course, there was a eek of camping and rock climbing and jumping off rocks and walking through rivers and “experiences” outside. It was great to be … Continue reading
You know what they say about opinions right? I love the ability and the freedom that we have when we blog. We can express ideas that we might be working on. We can share our opinions with our readers. We … Continue reading
…..is what I learn about you who read it. Whenever I check the sites stats, it shows the search terms that people used to find my blog, and it also shows the sites that they might have come from. Here … Continue reading
I looked up definitions of Foodie – on Urban Dictionary. The definitions had to do with loving food and knowing ingredients. It had to do with people that enjoy food. I think that a foodie is someone that is all … Continue reading
I would never consider myself a writer. I blog. I’ve written a dissertation. I have a few published articles, but I’m not a writer…..well, at least not yet. This past week, I received several requests for writing projects. They were … Continue reading
Whenever I log on to the dashboard of my blog, I many times will have a spam comment. I’ll check it to make sure there are no false positives, and I am always amazed when I check to see how … Continue reading
Last week I posted something that I called Circumvent Identity Formation – check it here. One of my friends read it, and it started a thread of emails processing through their identity formation and their process. I wanted to share their response to the post. I share it hoping that others would connect with it. They were able to put into words what happened to them and process through their experience.
Here are some of the ideas:
“Ok so alot of what you said rings so true to me that it’s almost painful. And then there’s other stuff that still feels like a contradiction in some way — or maybe its not as much a contradiction as it is empty? Not sure how to explain that just yet.”
I then asked what was painful and the response was:
- the freedom to express and create advances identity formation and growth and development. rushing people through it by performing and faking it – retards formation and development.
- earlier in life – you’re young enough and idealistic enough to bounce back quickly.
- religion is impersonal and it’s about standardization – everyone looking the same.
- cutting of the process at any point by superimposing your will on someone else kills growth and ultimately “kill” the person.
- but you can create that environment for growth and learning by allowing them to create and construct a new identity. you can do that for your kids. you have done that for yourself.
that’s the stuff that rang so true to me that it hurts. maybe it’s painful because i’m only beginning to sort thru and find my way…maybe part of me hoped it wasn’t true and in reading it like that, any denial that was lingering was forced out…regardless of the pain tho, having it put into words feels like finally being able to take in a breath — relieving and empowering.”
Can you identify with my friend? Can you see how your identity formation was short-circuited? Blocked? Circumvented?
Someone did a search today for “Internet Hotness Conversion Factor.” The reason that I know that is that they did a search for that phrase and found my blog post entitled Internet Hotness Conversion Factor – check it. It’s not an amazing post, but what trips me out more than someone searching for it is that I have a post by that title.
In checking it out, I came across this. Internet Hot. Once again, surprised to find it, but even more surprised to find it in a dictionary. Here’s the entry:
Used as an adjective: When someone (particularly a picture of someone on the Internet) has a hotness level inversely proportional to the skill level in photoshop it would take to make an average person reach that level of hotness. This is best used for profiles on dating sites where the person has had ‘professional’ photos made for their profile.
Here’s the url.