Where to Find Your Identity

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I know that I’ve written something like this before, but this conversation keeps coming up.  Just because I study and I’m very interested in identity doesn’t necessarily mean I know how you might be able to find identity.  Everyone is … Continue reading 

Why Argue?

There are a ton of ways to say it.  I don’t even know how I’m going to say it, but you know what it’s like to argue with someone that is always right – even when they’re wrong?  Why argue?  I mean, why waste your time arguing with someone that just likes to argue – even if they’re wrong.

This came up in a conversation this weekend.  It ended up with someone losing their job.  That’s never good, but it was all a misunderstanding.  It was also an argument that couldn’t be won.  Arguing with someone that can’t be convinced is a waste of time.  It is not strength to argue from that perspective.  It’s closed minded and selfish.  It’s insecurity.  If you were secure and could handle it, you’d have a conversation about it.  You’d engage the argument with with sound thinking and substantiated claims. It takes skill and patience.  Arguing with an insecure person is the worse.

Your time is precious.  Don’t argue with someone that can’t.

Depth of Friendship

Do you have friends that you can interact with on a deep – deep level?  I’m talking about that open and honest conversation with a friend.  I love having friends that I can go into the depths of my soul and my thoughts with.  I need to have friends that I can go deep with.  I am so glad that I have it.

There is a need for all of us to be known.  It’s great to be known.  It’s great know people and know them in the depths of their soul.  I love that in deep friendships, honest abounds – honesty rules.  It doesn’t matter what is going on your lives, a deep friend will always be there for you.

A deep friend will challenge you.  A deep friend will ask you questions that need to be asked.  A deep friend say things to you that need to be said.  A deep friend will not be afraid of whatever is going on in your life or in between the two of you.

I love my deep friends.  I love that no matter what I do, and no matter how much I mess up that they would be there for me.

Do you have the depth of friendship that makes you feel safe?

Comments-ation

A conversation that you have with a bunch of people – using just comments.  It’s not like you’re all in the room.  It’s not like you’re face to face, but you’re definitely having a conversation with people – using just comments.

I just made it up in my last post.  I wonder if anyone else is using it.  (Ah yes, not original with me, but still a great word.  Google it or click this.)

Check out a friend’s status update on Facebook or one of their pictures.  It’s a relatively new phenomenon right?  We have Comments-ations instead of Conversations.

It’s not a bad thing.  I mean, the web is changing everything.  You can be friends with people who aren’t your friends.  You can find a spouse that you don’t even have to date.  Why not have a conversation without conversing?

Comments-ation – we need to learn how to do it.