I heard that line and connected with it. There were some initial thoughts that came to mind when I first heard it. – No matter what neighborhood you live in, you’re still to love your neighbor. – That means I … Continue reading
Every experience shapes and forms us. There’s no escaping it. All of our Deep Hurts have a powerful influence on our identity.
When you are conscious of your Deep Hurt, you react and respond to it accordingly. Some of us push it down. Some of us charge after it head on. We all deal with it in some way. Some deal with it right away, and some wait. No matter which way you attack it, it shapes you.
There is a powerful thing that happens with Deep Hurts. There are triggers that tap into our Deep Hurts. When someone or something taps into that – they hurt us deeply – and sometimes unconsciously. You can be deeply hurt with a side glance or a furrowed brow. It doesn’t take much, but the right thing or the wrong thing can tap into that. And you will react to it – most times subconsciously – where you don’t even know that you lash out.
It becomes so much a part of who we are that it’s normal and we don’t even pay any attention to it. It’s a natural response that will illicit a response.
You can reform and reshape Deep Hurts – it’ll then reform and reshape your identity.
…….. you should totally listen to them. And I’m not talking about 2 people arguing necessarily, although great arguments can lead to arguing. You know what I mean. You don’t have to agree with them. In fact, if you are … Continue reading
I was listening to a podcast recently and was struck by this one comment (well, I was struck by the whole thing, but this one comment really stood out to me). If you have never experienced pain, you have not … Continue reading
I have been reading Seth Godin’s Stop Stealing Dreams. Click here to get it for yourself. I think it’ll be inspiration for a few more blog posts. He highlights how our educational system is built to prey upon our fears. What … Continue reading
Are you a speaker? Do you speak at events or give presentations? How long have you been doing it? I’m working on my speaking identity. I love speaking. I am working on my speaking. I have done a fair bit … Continue reading
re·tal·i·ate/riˈtalēˌāt/ Verb: Make an attack or assault in return for a similar attack. Repay (an injury or insult) in kind. When you think about identity, you end up thinking about what it is or who it is that you are … Continue reading
I was telling a friend today – whenever I think about grace, I always think about it in the context of receiving it. It’s always a good thing to receive grace right? I love my friends that are gracious. But … Continue reading
How much do you love your phone? Have you ever thought about that? I know that you can’t live without your phone – that’s a given. Most of us can’t live without it so I don’t really want to know … Continue reading
…..is what I learn about you who read it. Whenever I check the sites stats, it shows the search terms that people used to find my blog, and it also shows the sites that they might have come from. Here … Continue reading
Only in a culture that values individualism is romantic love the reason to get married. That was a line from one of my lectures this week on culture. In many cultures marriage decisions are too important to be left to … Continue reading
….is never about the person that receives the letter. The love letter is always about the person that writes it. There is nothing as pure and nothing that clearly demonstrates one’s identity like a lover letter is able to. When … Continue reading