The idea of the False Self is fascinating to me. In many ways, it comes from a very real place so to call it a False Self is a bit deceiving. There is something totally normal about having False Selves. We can sometimes create a False Self for a specific situation that just keeps us […]Read more "The Safety of the False Self"
How you can find your identity – your true self.Read more "How to Find Your True Self"
I was listening to a talk this am, and the speaker was an artist who had asked the questions – What would it be like to attend your funeral? Of course, we will all attend our funerals – at least our body will (we can have the conversation later about whether we really attend or […]Read more "Attend Your Funeral"
I was reading in Steven Pressfield’s book Do the Work. He has a quick line that caught my attention. The line is: The last thing we want is to remain as we are. If you’re reading this book, it’s because you sense inside you a second self, an unlived you……..an unmanifested you, this unborn self, […]Read more "The Second Self"
I am listening to a song that has to do with someone finding their identity in something that they don’t have. One of the lines is “holding on to what I haven’t got.” It sounds like it’s some failed relationship, but it’s pretty painful sounding. It is possible to identify with something that is not […]Read more "What You Don’t Have"
If you Google Identity Consulting, you will find pages having to do with business and corporate identity. You will get promises of how other companies can help you develop your brand and identity. I think there’s a market for personal identity consulting – not just to figure out your brand, but to help you figure […]Read more "Identity Consulting"
This is a great identity formation skill – not so much to help someone else form their identity but mainly to learn to see yourself. I don’t think we teach that, although some people just pick up on it intuitively. They are the ones that are able to change. They are the ones that tend […]Read more "See Yourself in the Eyes of the Other"