It’s Not Just One Thing

Do you ever help people out with their stuff?  Are you ever a counselor or therapist for someone (professionally or not)?

Whenever you are helping someone work through their stuff, no matter what it is, you have to keep in mind that it’s not just one thing.  Sometimes the conversation leads to – just give me that “one” thing that I need to do.  Whatever the issue is – relationships issues, identity issues, confidence issues, any issues – it’s never as easy as just doing one thing.

Now I’m going to speak out the other side of my mouth and say – sometimes, people can only work on one thing at a time.  What ever the issues are – and how ever old the person is – that’s how long the issue has been brewing.

One last thing, it’s always – always – always easier for you to tell someone else what to work on – always.  Even if you just boil it down to one thing, it’s always easier for you to tell them what to do.

Whether they’re asking for your help or you’re offering it freely.  It’s never just one thing – Most times they can only do one thing – and it’s never as easy as you say it will be.  Choose the best “one thing” that will help them.  You can always another “one thing” when they’ve completed the first one.

2 thoughts on “It’s Not Just One Thing

  1. Helping others is no doubt a good work. But sometimes people don’t like to hear your suggestions because their mindset is not to listen to other people. They don’t accept the fact that other person also can make a difference, a positive one, in their life.
    I sometimes back was a friend, philosopher to lot of persons. But it was bugging some people that I have knowledge about the things they are into. So they tried to argue with me and were arrogant with me. Since then I have decided that unless and until someone asks for help, I won’t suggest them anything.

    Now I help those people only who seem to be receptive.

    Nicely written.

    1. You’re so right. You can only help people that want help. It’s never fun for the one that just wants to argue with you. You’re absolutely right.
      It’s so interesting that our friends would argue right? I guess if the relationship was worth it, and they were truly our friends, we’d care enough about them to work through it – even if they fought us.
      Thanks for the comment.

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