It is theoretically possible to have inconsistent selves. Have you ever had anyone tell you that your thinking or your ideas are inconsitent – they’re not logical – or they don’t make sense? Next time someone says that to you – tell them – “Yeah, it is inconsistent. What’s your point?”
When exploring your identities, it is possible to explore 2 identities that are opposed to each other. When you do one thing and then do something totally completely opposite, that is consistent with exploring in identity formation. Building on the ideas of the Jamesian Me – the “I” can create 2 “me’s” and the “me’s” might be opposing “me’s” and be completely expressions of “I.” You can contradict yourself, and it is a natural and normal process.
Now, don’t take the idea too far. The self or the “I” can only have multiple “me’s” as long as there’s is an integrated self. It is possible to have exploring, opposing identities and still have an integrated self. Work out your identities, but the consequences of your working that out still belongs to you. These theories are not an excuse to do anything that you want to – but theoretically possible.
What is natural and normal is the exploring identities. Inconsistent selves is a consistent thing. Someone that says that you don’t make sense or that you’re inconsistent – they are the ones that don’t understand that in order to form and grow, a person with inconsistent selves is just working it out.