There are core identity features that you just cannot control.
– What family you were born into.
– Whether you were the youngest or the oldest.
– The fact that you had to take care of your siblings – so you are now a nurturer.
There’s tons of them. And even though you can’t control them, it is still so hard to not want to. I started writing this post with the idea that since you can’t control it – why worry about it. Instead though, I want to point out that the identity features that you can’t control might be the ones that bothers you the most. It might just be a built in feature – so I give you permission to both accept it and deal with it.