Your Mom and Identity Formation

I was preparing for class today.  It was on self-control and self-regulatory principles for interpersonal relationships (I’m sorry for any of my students that will be in class tomorrow – you’re going to hear this again).  Self-control is necessary to maintain interpersonal relationships.

Children – as young as 3 months – learn from their mom’s self-control.  From 3 months to 2 years, if a child doesn’t learn self-control and how to delay gratification, they might not ever learn it in their lifetime.  Did you catch that?  3 months.  That’s about as early as you can start the identity sculpting process.  Your mom shapes your identity – as early as 3 months.  (Yes, I’m sure that it can happens way before that time, I’m just sharing what I learned today)

That’s not to say that you can’t learn self-control, but learning it at 3 months provides a solid foundation for the rest of your life.

Thanks mom.

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