I was preparing for class today. It was on self-control and self-regulatory principles for interpersonal relationships (I’m sorry for any of my students that will be in class tomorrow – you’re going to hear this again). Self-control is necessary to maintain interpersonal relationships.
Children – as young as 3 months – learn from their mom’s self-control. From 3 months to 2 years, if a child doesn’t learn self-control and how to delay gratification, they might not ever learn it in their lifetime. Did you catch that? 3 months. That’s about as early as you can start the identity sculpting process. Your mom shapes your identity – as early as 3 months. (Yes, I’m sure that it can happens way before that time, I’m just sharing what I learned today)
That’s not to say that you can’t learn self-control, but learning it at 3 months provides a solid foundation for the rest of your life.