This was a late night thought for me. I was thinking about some of my friends that have been and still carry around deep wounds. Don’t get me wrong – we all carry wounds. Some more than others. But the ones with deep wounds – those were the friends that I was thinking about. (You know who you are).
What people with deep wounds need are people in their lives that would be willing to yield to their wounds. Similar to when you’re driving on the freeway, in many cases, it’s best to yield to oncoming cars – well at least bigger ones.
In much the same way, our friends with deep wounds need people in their life that would be willing to yield – for safety.
You see, the wounded person reacts – or puts up some walls to protect themselves – or will hurt you first before they get hurt – and at times they can come across as so selfish. It almost sounds like I’m saying that we need to enable the wounded. Not at all. Enabling would be ignoring one’s woundedness. I’m saying – yield to it – so that they will allow you in.
If this doesn’t make any sense to you, you’re woundedness might be too deep even process yielding to someone else’s woundedness. If you know someone around you that is wounded and you don’t know how to get in, trying yielding to it. Don’t try to fix. Don’t ignore. Yield. Sit in it with them. Listen. For as long as it takes.
Let me know if this makes sense or how it goes. Thanks for reading.