I heard this line a few days ago. We tend to make the things that happen to use the things that define our identity. If something happens to you, it might have a deep impact on your life and identity, but the things that happen to you is not your life.
It is just a shadow. Sometimes the shadow is tall, and sometimes it’s long. But your shadow is not you. You cast the shadow. Your life is not what happens to you. It’s a part of your life, but it’s not your life.