When People Say Bad Things About You

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When People Say Bad Things About You

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Lem Usita

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April 24, 2011

It could mean a few things:

1. They are bad people. Bad people say bad things.

2. What they said about you could be true.

3. They might be projecting some unrealistic expectations on to you.

4. They might be projecting their insecurity on to you.

5. Their mom didn’t teach them good manners.

6. They don’t feel great so they have to say something bad about you to make themselves feel better.

7. When people say bad things about you, it always says more about them than you.

What would you add to this list?

10 responses to “When People Say Bad Things About You”

Currie Rose

March 25, 2012

I’ve always been a sensitive soul and though I don’t like to admit it, I do take things more to heart than I should sometimes. I’ve come to see myself as a people pleaser and if someone doesn’t like me, my ego seems to find reason in that to label myself as unworthy and to stop reaching for my dreams and aspirations because “if I made one mistake than I am not perfect and only perfect people deserve.” This is something I am learning to overcome. I cannot please everyone and sometimes, peoples negative reactions have nothing to do with me… and if I see truth in it, it is my responsibility to examine it, come to my own conclusions and make the appropriate changes. I really liked this because I am starting to truly understand on a deep level that I really cannot please everyone and I really am doing the best I can, always.

Thank you. 🙂

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1. Lem Usita
  
  March 25, 2012
  
  Sounds like you are quite the deep feeler and a beautiful soul. I’m curious – do you know what started the need to please everyone? Also, are you a nurturer? Do you take care of people? I’ve got some great insight for you if you are.
  Looking forward to reading your blog. Thank you for checking out mine.
  
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  1. Currie Rose
    
    March 26, 2012
    
    Thank you so very much. 🙂 Yes, I think I am a nurturer. I know I used to be… but now my life tends to move and rearrange itself so often that it’s hard to say whether or not I nurture as much as I used to.
  2. Lem Usita
    
    March 28, 2012
    
    I was guessing that you were a nurturer. And even if you don’t think you nurture as much as you used to – you’re probably still nurturing more than you realize.
    I am also guessing that since you take care of the people around you – the people around don’t think you need nurturing – mainly because you’re nurturing everyone else. They all think you’re doing well. That goes back to your original comment. I can keep going, but only if you’re connecting with this. Thanks again for the comment.
  3. Currie Rose
    
    March 28, 2012
    
    Yeah, I’d have to say that was the case… and sometimes I struggle with letting people know I need help… more and more though I’ve surrounded myself with heart-centered people who are okay if I need help…. I feel like I have a nice flow and giving and recieving around me right now. Very insightful thoughts. Thank you. 🙂
  4. Lem Usita
    
    March 28, 2012
    
    That’s amazing. Great that you have people around you to take care of you.
    
    That’s what I was going to say – nurturers don’t know how to ask for help – and people don’t know to ask you. But you already knew that.
Currie Rose

March 28, 2012

Yeah, your comment really brought some clarity to some past situations. Thank you. 🙂

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1. Lem Usita
  
  March 28, 2012
  
  I have to go back and check out my comments.
  
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2. Lem Usita
  
  March 28, 2012
  
  Let me know if you need more insights.
  
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