I wrote a post that I called Becoming What You Hate. I have been thinking about it quite a bit. I know what I hate, and it’s just natural to become it. I wonder if it’s because I think about it so much.
As I’ve thought about it more, I started thinking about some of the things that I myself hate. It doesn’t take long to figure out all of the things that you might hate, but it takes quite a bit more time to figure out if you’re becoming that thing that you hate. After some time, I’ve come to realize that there are somethings that I hate that I’m moving closer to. I am becoming what I hate.
Sometimes you need help with that. I can only do so much to think through and process through that. I need help to not become what I hate. I am going to get some help with that.
There are many things about identity that you can create and shape. There are many times when things outside of yourself shape you. You can’t be in control of it all – sometimes you need help.
Have you done the work to figure out what you are becoming?