Memories are a wonderful thing. Sometimes though memories can be so bad that we don’t pay any attention to them. I’ve been reading about memories. I have a few posts coming up about memories. It’s really a fascinating thing. I wonder if there are any studies out there that have to do how memories shape identity. Please let me know if you know of any.
The memories that you pay attention to shape your identity. As you think about them and recall them, they start to shape you perspectives. Since typically they’re a lived reality, you start to repeat these things. Soon memories can become normal and natural actions. You can become these things.
The memories that you don’t pay attention to locks your identity into place. It takes work to hold down painful memories. It takes work to not pay attention to memories. As I was thinking through this, I realized that painful memories prevent us from moving on. Choosing to avoid dealing with it – still takes energy. It drains you. In fact, you can get locked into just not giving painful memories attention that you don’t move on. It’s definitely an identity status to not develop identity.
They will come up. You’ll grow tired one day or will be forced to face the truth of the painful memories. It might not be a direct interaction with it, but know that painful memories exert a powerful force on your identity. Knowing it helps though. Sometimes you just need help.