This is in reference to any change that you want to make in life. Whether you want to change yourself or help someone change, you have to do so at the right rate of acceptability. You can’t force yourself or someone else to change outside of what you or they are willing to accept. Make suggestions and give advice – only as far as their willingness to accept it.
If you want to change yourself or help someone change – figure out the right rate of acceptability. Figure out how much they can handle – even if the rate of acceptability is minuscule, that would be the right rate.