It’s always great to write a post and realize that I had already titled another post with the same title.  Here’s my previous post about Negative Space having to do with the space between thoughts and breaths.

Today, I had a conversation with a friend about unrealistic expectations.  We are all at a certain level of growth and development.  Anything within the range of our growth and development we are responsible for.  Sometimes though, we might place expectations on ourselves – way beyond our comprehension and experience.  Sometimes we can place expectations on ourselves outside of our development or ability.

On a scale of 1-10, you might be at 6 on the developmental scale.  You can place upon yourself the unrealistic expectation of performing at at 9, but there is the negative space of 6-9 that you have not yet experience or developed in.  There is no way a 6 can perform at a 9 level.  There is negative space, but not only is there negative space, those unrealistic expectations can be a negative thing.

This is the space where you start thinking that you’re not good enough or you’re not smart enough – and that no one likes you.

In development and formation, you need to go through the growth process to get to 7 – 8 – 9 and even 10.  Expecting a 6 to perform at a 9 leads to Negative Space.