I have been taught all of my life to not be selfish.  The problem is, I am quite selfish.  I think we all are.  At the core of your selfishness – you find your SELF.  To not be selfish is to not be you.

But at a point in your development – when you’re secure enough in your self – you can own your selfishness.  And in owning your selfishness, you are then able to not be so —– selfish.