Deep Hurt

Every experience shapes and forms us. There’s no escaping it. All of our Deep Hurts have a powerful influence on our identity.

When you are conscious of your Deep Hurt, you react and respond to it accordingly. Some of us push it down. Some of us charge after it head on. We all deal with it in some way. Some deal with it right away, and some wait. No matter which way you attack it, it shapes you.

There is a powerful thing that happens with Deep Hurts. There are triggers that tap into our Deep Hurts. When someone or something taps into that – they hurt us deeply – and sometimes unconsciously. You can be deeply hurt with a side glance or a furrowed brow. It doesn’t take much, but the right thing or the wrong thing can tap into that. And you will react to it – most times subconsciously – where you don’t even know that you lash out.

It becomes so much a part of who we are that it’s normal and we don’t even pay any attention to it. It’s a natural response that will illicit a response.

You can reform and reshape Deep Hurts – it’ll then reform and reshape your identity.

Israel Trip So Far

It has been absolutely overwhelming. We are physically tired. We are emotionally overwhelmed. The mind is full of questions, images, and new information. I have a renewed passion for reading the Scriptures from more of a Hebrew perspective. I’m here for a few more days, but I cannot wait to get back.

It will take awhile to process all that I have learned. I have enjoyed the teaching and the reading of the Scriptures. I loved Megiddo. We hiked Mt Arbel (it was foggy so we couldn’t see a thing. It rained and was super muddy, but was still awesome). It was interesting to be at Bethsaida, and it’s a nothing site, but quite overwhelming for me. I enjoyed the lesson we learned at Ceserea Philippi – there was so much sin there and evidently, what happened at Ceserea Philippi stayed at Ceserea Philippi – and Jesus went there.

I am not going to share everything that I’ve learned here. I still have to process it a bit more.

Here’s the deal though (warning – this might be a little bit of complaining. We have been praying and reading the Scriptures around here. It’s great that we can see exactly where we are situated in the story and get insight in that way – but it’s not like the prayer and the worship is any different here than it is at home. It’s great to be here and learn, but you don’t need to be here. I’ve kinda heard a few people say that it seems more real because we are here – and I don’t think it’s any more real just because you’re in the middle of the Sea of Galilee. The authority that is sent out from here is just as good at home. The prayers that are prayed here aren’t any more special that the ones that we say at home. It is so cool to see and experience though.

I am excited to teach this stuff when I get back, and would love to talk to you about your experience here.

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Emotional Work

I heard that phrase today.  A girl that I was listening to was talking about the guys that she dates and how she is more attracted to guys that have done their emotional work.  It stood out to me.

The first question that I asked was – what does that even mean?  But then she continued to describe how she was attracted to men that have done emotional work because those that do end up being much more confident in who their identity.

So men – if you do your emotional work – and we all have some work to do in that area – the confidence that comes because of that work will shine through.  Emotional work = Confidence.

I can’t hurt – much.

Emotional Engineering

I don’t know what you picture when you think of an engineer, but I think math and socially….well, you know.  Don’t get me wrong.  I know tons of cool engineers, but that’s the focus of this post.

I heard about the idea of emotional engineering and was quite fascinated by the idea of it.  What does it mean to be one?  You can do a search for it, and it seems to exist as an actual discipline.  I’ve just never thought of it.  It brings about some interesting ideas and concepts.  There are behavioral economists.  I’d love to hear from an emotional engineer.  If you’re one, let’s talk.  I want to learn from you.

Emotions and Blogging

I saw this tweet on Twitter from @TheBeanCast.  Here’s the tweet:

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Blogging is emotionally draining when you actually put effort in it. Should just start posting links and snarky comments like everyone else.

Of course I retweeted it, but I wanted to blog it as well.  Blogging is not just a cognitive exercise.  It could be, but typically it is an emotional experience.  It’s emotional in that most people don’t want to even start doing it.  You’ve got to want to blog in order to.  Then once you start, the more passion and emotion that you have in your blogs, the better it is – because people connect with that.  The ideas can be good, but it can also be emotionally draining.

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